March 9, 2010
Written by Sue · Filed Under U.S.
3 Responses to “GOP Anti-Gay State Rep: ‘I am Gay’ Please ‘Pray for Me’”
errrr…..among the facts you got wrong…you missed my name. It’s Barks, not Banks. Thank you.
You were referred to as Inga “Banks” in the San Francisco Chronicle. The correction has been made. Regarding your claims: “among the facts you got wrong,” I would be interested in what falsehoods you claim to have found in my piece.
As an older man who came to his sense at the age of 40, I think I have some insight into why CA GOP State Senator Ashburn lived the life and lies he did. Many men who live a life in a world where heterosexuality appears compulsory have traveled the same ground. The psychological defense of denial is VERY powerful, when we wish so hard for something not to be true that we know in our hearts really is true.
Of course it is upsetting that he worked so hard against the rights of the community he has now become a part of, but I am more concerned about how he lives his life going forward. Others who have gone through this before have ultimately become major supporters of LGBT rights. Others? Not so much.
I would hope that the LGBT community can prove to be far more welcoming and affirming that the community he is leaving. We do not help our cause by continuing to throw bricks at him. What I believe we should do, is what others did for me when I came out, and that is to welcome him, embrace him, and show him who we really are. Nothing will change his mind more that he was wrong than for us to show him we are not who he thought we were.
Senator Ashburn, welcome to the community of LBGT men and women.
Loren A Olson MD
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